Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!

Hey Dudes & Divas,

It is so freaking COLD out!!!!!!!!!!!!! This weather has been so extreme. I know it is hard to figure out what to wear when the weather is acting up but I have found some HOT coats to keep you warm & in style!!!

Below are my picks for the hotness 2010 winter looks for men & women!!!

For any of the coats featured on today's blog check out

http://www.asos.com/, http://www.burberry.com/, http://www.shopstyle.com/, http://www.shopbop.com/, http://www.nordstrom.com/, http://www.mackage.com/ & http://www.saks.com/.

Peace,

CheyaThou

Wow What a Year?? Happy 2010!!!!

Hey Dudes & Divas,

Happy New Year!!!! It is 2010!!!!

2009 went by so fast. I didn't even relaize how long it has been since I last posted anything. It has been far too long! I promise that will be the last time I stay away that long!! 2010 is a new year so I will make sure to hit you with the Nu Cheya Thou!!!

As you see my name has changed from Ms. Mil to Cheya Thou!

This is a good way for us to get reaquantied! Let me introduce myself...

I am Cheya Thou & I started this blog to share my thought on fashion, life & a lil bit of current events.

I am a Beautiful, Strong, Confident, Intelligent, Passionate, Black Woman who is also a, part time stylist, full time hustler, aspiring author, on the low comedian, lover of mother earth, friend to many; enemy to few, & child of God!

Get to know me!!

I do not promote self hate or the hate of other on here so if you are looking for negative thought go thataway ---------------------------------------->>>>>>>>>

Thanks! All about love for one another has humans & self love.

Hope you enjoy the journey as a I share my views! Just thought I should share a lil bit about me!

I will be updating the blog with info on the Best Shopping, Vacations, Date Ideas, & of course Fashion as often as possible!

Make sure you check back for updates!!!

Stick around to see how the blog evolves!!!

Please feel free to comment on any post that move you!!!

Peace,

Cheya Thou

It's been awhile...

Hey Dudes & Divas,

Please forgive me for neglecting you. School had me kind of crazy but I will make the extra effort to keep up this time.

Now that school is done and I'm embarking on the next phase in my life have been thinking about what's really important to me. I realize that things & people are not always what they seem. It takes a secure, confident & mature individual to do regular self evaluations & be completely honest with ones self. So, this is what my regular routine has consisted of for last week. It is proving to be a tough pill to swallow at times. I am realizing that some relationships are not what I thought they were & accepting the fact that I was way more invested in it them the other party.

I'm learning to trust myself more & not care so much about what others may think of me no matter who they are. It takes more Faith to believe in Me than it does to care about what someone else thinks of Me. I don't want to be one of those woman who are still very unsure of their self well into there adult years. I would much rather conquer all demons & issues early on as to better at this aging thing.

I will keep you posted on my progress & pleas e let me know where you stand on this journey called life & what things you are learning about your self. We can grow together.

Here's to working on Me & You working on You! Cheers!

Peace,
Ms. Mil

P.S.- I'm working on my writing too.

Weekend Fix!!!

Hey Dudes and Divas,

Thank you for you patience with me. I have been swamped between school, work,and my internship so much has been going on. I promise to try to update more.

Since it is officially Spring, I'm going to share some Dope spots to donate clothes and to get clothes in NY. Spring Cleaning has officially begun.

Vintage is in right now. So, I want to be sure that you have the hottest items this Spring!!!

To update your wardrobe the Recessionista Way see the info and links below:

Beacon's Closet
*Personal Favorite (You can bring in your clothes and sell to the store and buy nu clothes right on the spot)

They also offer online shopping which is unheard of! FINDS up the Wazoo!!!

http://beaconscloset.myshopify.com/pages/what-we-do-how-we-do-it


New York Vintage
I know someone who went here recently and got a pair of Earnest Sewn jeans for $7. Nothing else to say....

http://newyorkvintage.com/new-york-vintage-clothing-location.php


Housing Works
Is a spectacular organization that helps those living with AIDS and help Fight Homelessness. They offer job training, health care and housing many people all though out New York City. They also sell not just clothes but also furniture for extraordinarily inexpensive prices.
So not only can you update the closet but you can upgrade the living space.

*All Housing Works profits go toward Housing Works’ services for homeless and low-income people living with AIDS.

They are opening a store this weekend in Soho and the list some of the items this store will be selling and you get a free t-shirt w/purchase tomorrow.

You can become a member and shop the sale for 1 hour prior to doors opening to the public. Click link below

https://secure.groundspring.org/dn/index.php?aid=3598

More information about the Grand Opening Event click link below:

http://www.housingworks.org/events/detail/soho-thrift-shop-grand-opening-members-only-preview-sale1/

They also have a great Books that normally has a host of Free event that cater to every culture.

See link below for details

http://www.housingworks.org/social-enterprise/bookstore-cafe/

*I can not say enough about Housing Works and what they do for so many people all over NYC.

Help Someone in need while satisfying your shopping fix!

I hope to see you at Housing Works this weekend for the event!!!

Next Post Dope Deals & Events in other cities! Keep an Eye out...

Man, I have Missed You guys. Enjoy the Beautiful Weather
&
B True to U!!!

Peace,

Ms. Mil
(Kissin the Sky)

P.S.- Housing Works has a Warehouse Brown Bag Sale twice a year where you pay $20 for a brown shopping bag and you can leave with whatever you can stuff in the bag! (unheard of)

This Is Not OK...

Hey Dudes & Divas,

As we find out more and more information about the Chris Brown and Rihanna’s situation my heart is saddened even more. This was one of those relationships that everyone loved gossiping about because they never talked about it. Now we come to find out that one or both were causing harm to one another. A relationship is not something you should allow to hurt you and break you in a negative way. In all your getting, get understanding is what the Bible says. We are supposed to learn something new everyday. The process is not meant to be physically or emotionally damaging. When the relationship no longer feels right you have to evaluate what's going on. Sometimes we as women have to set our feelings aside to see clearly. When you are not thinking with a clear head it is difficult to make the best decision.

I have stated this before and I will state it again Rihanna is young. The public has no right to judge her by a double standard. She just happens to be famous and in the spotlight. Personally when I was young I made a lot of not so great decisions but no one cared because I was not in the public eye. When you are young, naive and in LOVE you will do almost anything for the one you love no matter if you are in the public eye or not. There are so many women who are in jail today for the choices they made while in Love. It is not on any level right but when we are young we tend to allow our heart to lead and not trust our gut and mind. We are judged by the same standards of how we judge others. We go through things for us to grow no one knows what the outcome will be. "It is not What happens to you but how your React to What happens to you that really makes the difference"- A.R.Bernard

We have to take a step back as a society to look at what this might mean for the youth of today. Please let's not think that Rihanna is the only young women involved in an abusive relationship. If anything this illuminated the reality of what many young people are dealing with today. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotlines website:

"Abuse is a pattern of coercive controls that one person exercises over another. Battering is a behavior that physically harms, arouses fear, prevents a partner from doing what they wish or forces them to behave in ways they do not want.

Battering includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation.

Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels."

This is not an isolated situation. Be careful how you judge others no one is exempt. Domestic violence is not bias. When you see others going through something see yourself.

We need to give our young people better venues/methods to express themselves. As a society, we need to be clear that Domestic Violence is never OK. Women should not be ashamed to speak up and stand for what is right even in the face of inevitable reprisal. There are so many reasons why women would stay in an abusive relationship some are lack of self esteem, love, no other option, fear, & children. Please show children that violence is not the way. No one has the right to lay hands on you to inflict bodily harm no matter what happens. Real Love Heals and does not Hurt.

What is sad is that we are not always able to recognize the signs or the characteristics of an abusive man/ women prior to the abuse. Below are some signs and organizations that help women who have been victims of domestic violence.

Am I being Abused?

How is your relationship?

Does your partner:

• Embarrass you with put-downs?
• Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
• Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
• Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
• Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
• Make all of the decisions?
• Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
• Prevent you from working or attending school?
• Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
• Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
• Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
• Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
• Force you to try and drop charges?
• Threaten to commit suicide?
• Threaten to kill you?

If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions,
you may be in an abusive relationship.

(From the National Domestic Violence Hotlines website)

If you are a victim of domestic violence please seek help & don't allow your Love to Rob you of your Life.

http://www.loveisnotabuse.com/statistics.htm

http://www.ndvh.org/get-help/

http://www.ncvc.org/ncvc/main.aspx?dbID=DB_DatingViolenceResourceCenter101

http://ncadv.org/

http://www.nnedv.org/

http://www.ovw.usdoj.gov/

Peace,
Ms.Mil

Rock Bottom

Hey Dudes & Divas,

Honestly, today I felt the need to post to share my thoughts on the media and their constant disrespect of what true and real journalism means. We are living in the age of exploitative journalism. The NY Post printed a cartoon that’s shows two police officers standing over the body of a dead chimpanzee that was shoot to death with the comment "Now they will have to get someone else to written there stimulus bill". This cartoon can only be taken one way and that is offensively. African Americans have for years been referred to as animals and thought to lesser than our counterparts. It is not a secret that the author of the stimulus bill was President Obama. The cartoon is something that we as African Americans should not let slide. We need to open our mouths and speak up for what is right because if we do not who will? We as a people have made too many strides in history for the NY Post or any other ignorant media outlet to make jokes at our expense and think that we are too stupid to read between the lines. Many African Americans are educated and hard working people with values and beliefs that they hold dear to them. We do not deserve to be the butt of a joke for the sake of entertainment or anyone else. The NY Post editors have played on our intelligence and the issue of race is not something to be taken lightly.

How dare they think printing the cartoon is OK and to depict our First African American President in such a negative light. The NY Post would like us to believe that the "cartoon" was not intended to be offensive but I highly doubt that everyone working at the NY Post is severely uneducated and did not know that printing that cartoon was in POOR taste. The "apology" issued completely glossed over the issue and tried to depict those speaking on the issues as wrong. Once again, in POOR taste as if what was interpreted by the cartoon was out of left field and oh so far fetched.

The NY Post # 212-930-8500. If you feel as passionately as I do about this please make your sentiment known. Call and share your opinions with those who control the many news sources not just the NY Post

Now, TMZ has violated all journalistic codes many times in the past but this time they have crossed the line. I am saddened by the media outlets that have run with the story after TMZ released the photo of Rihanna. The use of the photo is completely been a negligent act of journalism yet once again. To release the photo of a Domestic Violence victim is unconscionable. We do not know all the details of that night but only the allegations that were made. It is rude and horrible that we as Americas are so starved for information on celebrities that we would go as far as to print a photo of a woman who was visibly abused. How we judge a person whose life is under the microscope, even if they are a celebrity should not justify the use of the photo. Rihanna is still a human being and victim of a heinous crime. The publishing of the photo is a reckless attempt of reporting the facts. The photo that some felt would be fine to sell and post all over the Internet and papers was an act of excessive access. This very private photo has been used to exploit her pain and made available for people to just engage in unnecessary conversation that would not lead to anything productive to aid her during this difficult time.

There are many more pressing world issues to report. Have we become so void of compassion that domestic violence issues have become front page news in a time of great financial struggle and world suffering? Domestic Violence is/ should not be an entertainment piece.

The media continues to sink to a new low but I feel we are at ROCK BOTTOM right now.

"Watch your Thoughts they become Words
Watch your Words they become your Actions
Watch your Actions they become your Habits
Watch your Habits they become Character
Watch your Character for it becomes your Destiny"

-Unknown

Love your Neighbor this is the most important of the laws required of us by God.

Peace,
Ms. Mil

Change!

Hey Dudes & Divas,

This is a year of New Beginnings. Allow your style to evolve and change into the person you are becoming and not the stay where you use to be.

If it is Grown and Sexy or Boho Chic embrace it. Change is the only constant in Life and the better we are at being flexible and accepting it the more we will be blessed with.

Below are my picks for a flexible wardrobe. They seem a little bit all over the place but pick your favorites and put your twist on them to make them your own!

Peace,
Ms. Mil